Why crying is associated with weakness in men.

"It's okay to be weak", "Normalise men crying", "Crying does not imply weakness"; This is the stupidity going around the internet where considerate girls and soy-boys try to speak in the name of mental awareness for men and their well being. At a glance, it looks like a positive spread of opinions aiming for welfare, but is it really the case? Should men actually cry? Why wasn't it socially acceptable in the past and why are traditional men or men from the older generation incapable of crying?

The answers to the questions are in the way boys are brought up in different eras. Kids now are encouraged to express and share their feelings at every minor inconvenience making them vulnerable at times where they cannot instantly share their sorrows and problems. When a person cries, it's an emotional reset to a person's capacity to internally bear pain, suffering and sorrow. The more a person is able to stack these emotions without breaking apart or having outbursts, the stronger he is emotionally. Does that mean he doesn't cry? No. He does... but it's so rare that it can be considered negligible. Is this society's fault? No... It is a thought provoking custom handed over to the male population throughout generations. Male friends mock each other in times to sorrow to make sure that a moment of vulnerability is avoided in the future thus discouraging it. Not crying in situations leads to better reasoning capabilities due to the fact that emotions do not play a role in decision making. But this has an under-limit. A person can still feel emotions without showing it and that is the first step towards being "stoic."

The most probable reason why only men were subjected to this constraint in earlier days is due to the welfare of the house falling over them. A weeping man's house would never be stable. It is not okay to be weak. No one wants a man to not be able to handle the emotional pain of a family. He has to be the one who stays the strongest. He has to be the pillar of support, he has to be there for everyone, he has to be the last one who breaks down. That's the image of an ideal man.

Men are asked not to cry like a girl. The line is not demeaning in any form. The simple meaning is asking a male to stop crying like a little girl child. While comparing grownups, an average woman tends to cry more than an average man. Though this trend is declining rapidly due to two reasons; one good and the other bad. 1) Women are emotionally much stronger than their previous generation due to the injustice and prejudice they face. This moulds them to be independent and emotionally stable and 2) The capacity to control and manipulate one's emotion is modern day males are declining i.e. they are growing weak. Trends show that the average grip strength, average interval between breaking down, average IQ have all been decreasing at a rapid rate. In simpler words, the situation gives rise to weak men and weak men lead to bad times. Stoic thoughts are labelled as toxic masculinity and criticized. Is this real how a man should be? A weak idiot who cannot provide for his loved ones? This is where a line should be drawn where weaklings should be called males and not MEN as there is a standard to meet in order to be called a MAN.